Thursday, February 27, 2014

You, Why Don't You Just Be A Man?

By Sunaina Patnaik at Thursday, February 27, 2014

Oh, so you just abused a woman!

You feel very masculine.

You must be wallowing in pride, right? Of course, you think you have attained manhood by behaving like an animal.

How many times have you come across a friend, who is having a hard time plodding her way out of an abusive relationship? A majority of women, all over the world get abused in several forms and it is quite appalling that despite a lot of initiatives, this hasn't reduced.

Of course, who takes initiatives seriously? You burn a candle in the name of the victim, walk for a while, take a pledge and forget about it altogether. 

You think it is alright to be abused by your man, best-friend, father, brother. You don't realize the gravity of the situation. You don't understand that, little by little, your confidence is getting crippled. Everyday!

Sometimes, you desperately want to do something about it. But you cannot! Because we live in a society where 75% of us think it is alright for a man to abuse a woman. He is a man, they say. He fends for the family and has his dilemmas, they say. If not the woman he loves the most, whom would he vent out on, they ask.

Pray, tell me, how? 

I am not sure why few men think it is their birth right to abuse women. If you are thinking it makes you look masculine and all that, trust me you are the most emasculative person ever. 

I am sorry that you are under the assumption that demoralizing a woman would make you masculine, superior, and all the metaphors that follow. Don't you realize that you are such a weak person that you cannot handle your own complications and you simply decide to disparage a woman by displaying your muscular strength? You are ridiculous! Accept it.

Women, your self respect can be damaged, you can be humiliated, you can be brutally hurt but nothing can actually take away what you are unless you succumb to it. And I hope you do not.

Open your eyes, and look around! Do you see those men who are chivalrous, civilized, and respect women? No matter how they are, no matter what they are going through, they choose to respect. They choose to love. They choose to protect. They choose to behave like men. 

Now, you!

Why don't you try to be a man?


Asisha on 27 Feb 2014, 06:21:00 said...

And this, is just bang on!
Very well written.

Sunaina on 27 Feb 2014, 06:47:00 said...

@Asisha: Thank you! What are you doing in the office at this hour? :O

Amrita Sabat on 27 Feb 2014, 06:57:00 said...

Excellent post! Glad to hv discovered your blog!

Sunaina on 27 Feb 2014, 07:06:00 said...

@Amrita: Thank you!

Jemina on 27 Feb 2014, 11:36:00 said...

Hey Sunaina..:D
Its one thing to bring out irony of a situation and other to raise opinion so well that we are left inspired after reading your blogs.
ladies are being married to those who taking pride in physical violence and girls are committed to guys who are obsessed freaks or uncontrollable morons. It's important that one speaks about it, raise opinions

Sunaina on 15 May 2014, 09:42:00 said...

@Jemina: Thank you. :)


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