You, Why Don't You Just Be A Man?

Oh, so you just abused a woman!

You feel very masculine.

You must be wallowing in pride, right? Of course, you think you have attained manhood by behaving like an animal.

How many times have you come across a friend, who is having a hard time plodding her way out of an abusive relationship? A majority of women, all over the world get abused in several forms and it is quite appalling that despite a lot of initiatives, this hasn't reduced.

Of course, who takes initiatives seriously? You burn a candle in the name of the victim, walk for a while, take a pledge and forget about it altogether. 

You think it is alright to be abused by your man, best-friend, father, brother. You don't realize the gravity of the situation. You don't understand that, little by little, your confidence is getting crippled. Everyday!

Sometimes, you desperately want to do something about it. But you cannot! Because we live in a society where 75% of us think it is alright for a man to abuse a woman. He is a man, they say. He fends for the family and has his dilemmas, they say. If not the woman he loves the most, whom would he vent out on, they ask.

Pray, tell me, how? 

I am not sure why few men think it is their birth right to abuse women. If you are thinking it makes you look masculine and all that, trust me you are the most emasculative person ever. 

I am sorry that you are under the assumption that demoralizing a woman would make you masculine, superior, and all the metaphors that follow. Don't you realize that you are such a weak person that you cannot handle your own complications and you simply decide to disparage a woman by displaying your muscular strength? You are ridiculous! Accept it.

Women, your self respect can be damaged, you can be humiliated, you can be brutally hurt but nothing can actually take away what you are unless you succumb to it. And I hope you do not.

Open your eyes, and look around! Do you see those men who are chivalrous, civilized, and respect women? No matter how they are, no matter what they are going through, they choose to respect. They choose to love. They choose to protect. They choose to behave like men. 

Now, you!

Why don't you try to be a man?

This Is How You Raise Your Son!

This post is inspired from Thought Catalog's "10 Controversial Ways I Plan On Raising My Daughter." The moment I read it, I knew I had to write something similar.

People, or to be more precise, Indians are very concerned about how a girl child should be raised. You know there are a set of restrictions, and some really weird godforsaken rules that are passed on from the ancestors. Some rules are just beyond our comprehension. But I wonder why boys do not have to go through this major structure in their childhood. They are a little lucky. 

I know I am an amateur at this subject, and oh, I have no knowledge at all in this section but I really think it would be great if boys are raised up like this. (Some of the rules apply to girls too.)

1. Teach him. Teach him to respect people, and their ideas irrespective of the age. He must be able to respect people younger than him. Teach him to respect the right things. It does not really matter if the person who commits a mistake is older than him, he should be able to respect the right things only.

2. Art should be a major part of his childhood. Men who take interest in art tend to be smarter than the men who don't. They tend to be more considerate too.

Read to him in the night. Make him paint. Send him to music classes. 

Make a note that art and education should go together. 

3. Have you noticed that most of the men look for the qualities of their mother in a girl they like? It is impossible. Teach them that it is stupid. Your mother and the girl you like are two different people. No one can replace your mother. Teach them that from a very tender age.

This way they will not have any expectations.

4. Raise him without a religion, or a faith. You have been a religious chauvinist, and you know it. Do not let it get to him too. 

Give him the freedom to make his choices right from the childhood. 

5. It is okay if he fails and makes mistakes. Do not admonish him for that. 

It is alright if he scores 80%. Not everyone is meant to score 90%. In the process of abusing him for his performance at school, you are letting a 'Mozart in the making' slip away.

6. There is more to a girl than her looks, and her body. Teach him to respect women. 

This world has enough sexists already. We do not need more of them.

7. Do you find it strange that an individual changes massively after he turns into a parent? Of course, he takes up more responsibilities, and all that. But do you also realize that he turns into a selfish human being? He expects his child (boys and girls) to do everything as he wants. 

Give a break, people. They join the school, college, and an organization of your choice. You choose their friends and the person they are supposed to spend an eternity with. You choose their car, their house, its interiors and basically, everything. Why, just why do that? What is the point in raising a child when you intend to snatch their freedom from their hands when they turn 22-23? Don't you realize that you are turning your child into your replica? 

Seriously, it is not a cool thing. It is high time parents realize this.

Apart from this, we love our parents for all that they do for us. No offence.

8. It is too much for us to handle the male ego. 

Parents should raise a kid with the right amount of self esteem. Not ego.

You have male zeta ego? Good for you! Do not thrust it on others. 

9. Ask him to document his life. Give him a camera and a journal. Ask him to make memories and maintain a note of every tiny detail. Even the bad ones.

10. Travel a lot. Take him to different places. Meet different people. Introduce him to different cultures. Let him know the world. Just let him experience different things.