Monday, August 05, 2013

Are Women Emotionally Strong?

Posted by Sunaina Patnaik at Monday, August 05, 2013


“Being a woman is a terribly difficult task, since it consists principally in dealing with men.” 

"Women are emotionally weak and they need men to do everything in their lives." Let us all pause for a moment and assess how true this statement is. Actually, it is not true at all. It is a fallacy. I have been listening to this statement a lot lately and I believe women need men as much as men need women. How long are we going to live in a state of denial saying men are stronger than women? Yes, definitely, men are considered to be the stronger sex and women are considered as the weaker and the fairer sex. However, I am referring to the emotional strength here.

We, women, cry out a lot. We do not do a great job in bottling up our fears and feelings. Men do not cry. It is a rarity. And they do a perfectly great job in covering up their feelings. In most of the cases, they do not discuss the problems, they tend to postpone them. But I am not blaming them here. They are wired that way and women are wired in an entirely different way. 

I would not agree that women are emotionally weak. Women are surely stronger than men when it comes to emotions. But there are few instances where we go wrong. For instance, we depend a lot. On men. Not just on our platonic partner, we depend on our father, guy friends, uncles etc. And when they deny us something, we think that is the end of the world. That doesn't mean we cannot handle our situations. We can. It is just that we depend too much and give a lot in relationships. Sometimes, we lose ourselves in those relationships and give in so much that it hurts like shit when we come out of them. It is like we leave a part of ourselves there and move out. 

Like Joseph Conrad said, it is an incredibly different task to be a woman. We multitask, we over think, we over analyze, and create situations that have never existed and might never exist. But our problems don't just end here. Like an icing on the cake, men complicate our lives. Now, do not get me wrong there. Men, in spite of being chivalrous, nice and all that, they are extremely ridiculous. And whoever said women are complicated and are tough to figure out surely did not understand the fact that we deal with men, and their massive male zeta ego. Oh please, let me just not get there. It is a taboo zone.

The other day my girl friend, Saubhagya called me up and spoke a great deal, and asked, "How did we land up in such a mess, Miss P(A strange way of regarding me as Miss Patnaik)?" Now, that is a million dollar question, the answer to which is umm..I don't know. Women are emotionally stronger. Let me tell you why! We crib, and demand for attention and emotional security but we reach a point where we realize that we don't want to be an emotional baggage on the person we love the most. Men are strange. They can be an emotional baggage and a messy one at that. But they do not want to put up with our emotions. What a shame! We do not shy away from problems. We discuss them openly and get over them eventually. It is a painfully slow process though. Even when men hurt women repeatedly, women pull themselves together and well, get with it. I mean, just because we cry a lot it doesn't mean we are weak. It is not a sign of vulnerability. It is just a sign of losing love and affection and I can vouch for that. 

In every case, women are emotionally stronger. Crying out loud isn't a sign of emotional weakness. Anyway, all we need is a pair of new shoes to make our lives better. And oh boy, men need a lot. They pretend to be groovy and all that. But they are world class sulk-ers. (A word like that doesn't exist.)

12 comments:

Sowbhagya aka Bagi on 5 Aug 2013, 07:21:00 said...

Wonderful Post Miss.P *Big Grin* !!!

I'd like to re-quote your statement "We crib, and demand for attention and emotional security but we reach a point where we realize that we don't want to be an emotional baggage on the person we love the most" --- and say SO TRUE, I couldn't help but smile in some places which were strikingly similar to my life events :)

Sunaina on 5 Aug 2013, 07:24:00 said...

:-) Yay! Thanks a ton!

Rinku Moni Gogoi on 5 Aug 2013, 11:39:00 said...

Wonderful post!!

So rightly said "...just because we cry a lot it doesn't mean we are weak." And the other line I love: "We crib, and demand for attention and emotional security but we reach a point where we realize that we don't want to be an emotional baggage on the person we love the most." Could totally relate to it :)

Asisha on 5 Aug 2013, 20:32:00 said...

This post surely strikes a chord with all the women ( uhh, girls?) out there :)

Sunaina on 5 Aug 2013, 21:02:00 said...

@Rinku: Thanks a lot. :)

@Asisha: Thanks.

Krishna Prasanna K said...

This one speaks to my heart. I can so really relate to it. You post good stuffs ;)

Sunaina on 5 Aug 2013, 22:14:00 said...

Thanks a lot! :D

Aditya on 5 Aug 2013, 22:35:00 said...

Haa! Quite Thought Provoking as I said!

You made me realize how at times we men tend to be jerks!

P.S "Tears of Realization!" :P

Sunaina on 5 Aug 2013, 22:43:00 said...

Men are jerks. All the time.

Sunaina on 5 Aug 2013, 22:46:00 said...

And haha, stop copying me. Thank you! :P

Jemina on 8 Aug 2013, 07:00:00 said...

So true.. Men walk around with the t-shirts of "being human".. I think they should rather be worrying about being humane..... god bless women..!

Sunaina on 8 Aug 2013, 07:07:00 said...

Hahah! :D

 

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